Monday, November 28, 2016

5. My passion for an ethics of intimacy – 9 pages



8-29-07 

    My visit this morning with a long-time colleague, Gerry Etzkorn, has been a gift to me.  Gerry brought up an intriguing question about my book, Christian Ethics:  An Ethics of Intimacy.  (That text would be more readable if I had written it as an answer to his question.)  The question:  My formulation of the ethics of intimacy seems to imply that we are called to intimacy with everyone.  Since that is clearly beyond our reach, what do I mean to say?

    My answer:  In that text, I argue that the three major strands of the western literary tradition - literature, philosophy and theology - are generated and governed by two foundational metaphors, the metaphor of power and judgment and the metaphor of intimacy.  I trace the misplaced debate between the Catholic and Protestant traditions to the fact that apologists in both camps were captive to a hermeneutical theory derived from the metaphor of power and judgment.  (Hermeneutical theories promise definitive readings of a foundational text.)  In my re-reading of the biblical and the theological traditions, I give full and fair voice to Scriptural passages which depict God as Lord, Lawgiver and Judge.  But I insist (1) that attention must be paid to biblical metaphors which compare God’s involvement with Israel to a marriage union and (2) that this understanding of the covenant reveals a passionate, vulnerable, respectful and faithful involvement of the triune God in the lives of individuals marked by every event in their personal histories.  And if that is so, no one can pretend that Scriptural references can be used to justify the pretense that the denomination they embrace, Catholic or Protestant, alone preaches the full and true gospel message.

    In an arena governed by the rule of the One, my ethics of intimacy provides a language which voices the longing of the Father, the Word incarnate and Holy Spirit for intimate involvement with each and every person.  Most importantly, it also incorporates a reading code which enables me to mine Scriptural passages which reveal the willingness of each of three Person in the Trinity to be involved with us passionately, vulnerably, respectfully and faithfully.  (NB:  A vulnerable and respectful involvement is incompatible with judgments, sanctions and manipulations in any shape or form.)  And since the language of intimacy is derived from a metaphor whose reach initially exceeded its grasp, the implications of the linguistic formulations it authorizes have been and continue to be subjected to the test of experience.

    For me, the paradigm test involved subjecting the implications of the formula, “Love one another as I have loved you”, to the implications of an incarnational theology.  And in every instance, I find that my intensely personal involvements with other unique human beings invite me to discern how each of the three Persons is involved with us in distinctive ways.

    Quite obviously, if I am to learn how to love others as Jesus does, I must first experience Jesus’ involvement with me.  (It is not enough to work from my image of Jesus, even if that image is scripturally based.)  And to experience this intensely personal involvement, I must have a language which enables me to process my everyday experiences in ways that reveal Jesus’ longing for ever-deepening person-to-person involvement with me and expose the woundedness that distorts my ability to trust.  I find biblical warrant for such linguistic formulations in the Johannine tradition’s insistence the we cannot pretend to love God if we do not love the flawed human beings we encounter on our journey through life.  To live in God’s love, therefore, we must process our everyday experiences in ways which reveal that God’s intensely personal love for us comes to us through one another.  And these experiences reveal that God is Love.

    Equally obviously, an incarnate Word who is passionately, vulnerably, respectfully and faithfully involved with each of us differs radically from the Redeemer who, at the urgings of divine mercy, came to offer fitting reparation for the sin of Adam.  I suggest, therefore, that a meta-narrative which attributed the Incarnation to an interplay between divine judgment and divine mercy is quite incompatible with a meta-narrative which attributes both creation and the Incarnation to an over-flowing, creative love.

    Sadly, my appreciation of the inseparability of an incarnational theology and an ethics of intimacy was long in coming.  Thus, if I had been open to vulnerable self-revelations in my early years as a priest, I would have utilized a narrative voice which oscillated between confessions laden with good old Catholic guilt (which placed me in the role of the villain) and complaints which cast me as the victim and God as the villain.  Enmeshed as I was in a language intended to assign responsibility to one rather than both of the participants in an event, I disguised the harsh judgments I passed on myself and on God in self-talk which echoed passages from Jeremiah, a constant complainer.  In public, I often quoted Theresa of Avila’s dictum, “Lord, no wonder you have so few friends, given the way that you treat them.”  But I was not yet ready to question the deeply rooted beliefs and probe the emotional reactions that prevented me from letting Jesus, fully human as well as fully God, accompany me on a quest for a fully human existence, with its promise of more abundant life.

    Long before I became aware of the internalized judge responsible for the burden of guilt I carried, my habit of casting God as a villain in my story was challenged by events in which I saw how the Father’s love entered even tragic events in ways that brought new life to others.  Gradually, I began to see that the Father was active in the same way in my life.  Initially, that realization lent a semblance of authority to the internalized judge who blamed me for everything that did not turn out as I intended.  But the rule of this internalized judge was challenged when I encountered the Holy Spirit during my mid-life crisis.

    This crisis falsified the theological foundations of the formation I had received beyond repair.  Through an uneasy involvement with the charismatic movement, however, I was able to see that the indwelling Spirit was compassionately and respectfully active in the angry eruptions I tried so desperately to suppress.  Through people who were more familiar with the inner journey than I was, I came to see that it was the Spirit’s love for me that kept alive the pain, anger, anxiety and shame that I tried to bury until I was ready to allow it to find new life in my involvements with other wounded individuals.  Gradually, I became aware of the insidious ways that feelings I had controlled by burying them alive were now controlling me in hidden ways.  Then, as I entered a process of letting go and letting each of the three divine Person’s work in my life, I did so, in part, because I was ashamed of the ways I had used reactions of contempt, frustration, sarcasm, silent disapproval, and the like to control potentially angry outbursts.  Somehow, the times when I begged God to free me from these tangled reactions, I heard the voice of the Spirit informing me that God was too respectful to change me without my full involvement in the process.  And as I became capable of vulnerable self-revelations, I was able to trust that the transforming power of divine and human love can to me in and through interactions with others.

    Once I could no longer cast God as the villain in the story of my life, I began to hear the words of love spoken by the indwelling Spirit.  And as these words resounded in my tangled depths, I realized that the repertoire of emotional reactions I used to bury the pain experienced in wounding events in the past had done violence to my deepest feelings, that the Spirit’s love for me had kept these feelings alive, and that embracing them with honesty allowed each of the three Persons to work in my life.

         (I would gladly attribute the following quote to its author, but I cannot remember where I read it.  The quote:  “Any feeling that is buried will eventually become a weapon to be used against somebody.”  This quote is empirically validated in interactions between married couples who have not learned how to express anger vulnerably and respectfully.  As a straightforward example, teasing which was once warm, affectionate and playful soon has a barb in it, as buried anger finds hidden expression.  In a more complex dynamic, if a mother was deeply wounded by a lack of care and concern from her parents during childhood, she may be so determined that her children will not suffer as she did that she transforms her concern into a smothering care.  Such examples can be multiplied indefinitely.)

    Today, I supplement my conviction that there is no way through cross-situations except through them with the insistence that the inner journey is a process, not a series of events.  Once I yielded to the process, I discovered that personal encounters with Jesus in everyday events were inseparable from deepening involvement with the Father and the indwelling Spirit.  And as I began to trust their love for me, I found myself responding to other tangled individuals without judgment or agenda.  With some, the graced moment was confined to a single encounter.  In other instances, an initial encounter called me to accompany wounded individuals as they walked through the valley of death, with an empathic response to the excruciating pain that tempted them to embrace the suicide-option.  And in a few instances, I discerned a call to a long-term commitment that would tap all my buried pain, anger, fear and shame as well as my care and compassion.  In any instance, I became aware that I was called to let unique and complicated individuals into my life, vulnerably and respectfully, without knowing how deeply I was to be involved with them.

           (ASIDE:  I long believed that my judgments voiced a refusal to be vulnerably involved with other persons until they changed.  But a reflection written by Marianne Parker exposes the violence enshrined in judgments far more eloquently than anything I could say:  “Judgment is not interested in seeing its captive change.  Its demands, criticisms, protests and objections are not designed to re-direct, teach or guide.  Its function is to break one’s spirit and confidence.  Its livelihood is strengthened by the weakness of its prey, and its victory lies in the shattered hopes that gradually, yet inexorably crumble from the burden of its uncompromising weight.”)

Literary Origins of My Hermeneutical Theory

    My understanding of the workings of hermeneutical theories is more indebted to the hermeneutical theory encoded in Nietzsche’s archeology of knowledge and genealogy of morals than to the critical apparatus forged by the dominant strand in the Catholic theological tradition.

    Versed in the critical apparatus that governed scholarly discourse in German Universities, Nietzsche was aware of the work of German Protestant biblical scholars.  To support the Protestant commitment to Scripture alone, they had replaced the metaphysical and methodological inquiries favored by medieval theologians (and by Thomists today, including Pope Benedict XVI) with inquiries designed to yield a reading of the Scriptures which eliminated human interpretation from the translations and readings of the Scriptures, since this sprawling text had to be both self-interpreting and self-referential if it was to speak as the immediate Word of God in any age or culture.

    Nietzsche, of course, had a more ambitious aim than the Protestant biblical scholars.  Quite obviously, he believed that his Genealogy of Morals offered a definitive reading of the literary, biblical, philosophical and theological strands in the western literary tradition.  That belief underlies his confident proclamation that this tradition as a whole was propelled by an all-pervasive and impersonally operating will to power.  By his use of two distinctive literary forms designed for that purpose, he emerged as the first philosopher of the western literary tradition.  And in and through the reading code derived from these forms, he shifted the traditional focus on metaphysical, epistemological, methodological and ethical inquiries to analyses designed to reveal how experiences are textured by languages generated by this tradition.  (I am certain that he also sought to assert his authority over the effort by Protestant biblical scholars to present the Judaic-Christian Scriptures as a self-interpretative text and a self-referential Word of God.)

    Since the Scriptures often speak to me as a living word, I gladly recognize that the early Protestant biblical scholars accepted the challenge voiced by Descartes’ methodical doubt.  As literary heirs of a well-developed critical apparatus, they hoped to devise a theory capable of exposing the violence done to the gospel message by theologies ground in an interplay between the metaphysical inquiries privileged by Aquinas’s baptism of Aristotle and a discourse which presented Tradition as an authorized interpreter of the Scriptures.  However, since they assumed that definitive readings of a text or a textual tradition were possible, they remained captive to the conception of an autonomous text generated by the rule of reason which was foreign to the authors of the texts stitched together in the Judaic-Christian Scriptures.

    Nonetheless, since even a bad theory is better than no theory at all, their willingness to begin with a categorical belief that the Scriptures were self-interpreting proved fruitful in ways they did not anticipate.  Thus, on the one hand, they recognized that, since the Scriptures preserved texts written in different literary genres and supplemented by a wide range of literary conventions, the redacted text could not be read literally.  And on the other, their efforts to use an understanding of the inner logic of a literary genre and the workings of literary conventions to show that the text was self-interpreting revealed instead that their project could not produce what it promised.

    In effect, their project collapsed from within, in a manner akin to the collapse of the ideal language program advanced by Logical Positivism.  And that failure exposed the impossibility of reading any text without interpretation and, by extension, of regarding any text as an autonomous text.

    In this vein, Nietzsche’s reach exceeded his grasp.  His insistence that the western literary tradition was propelled by an all-pervasive will to power cannot accommodate the fact that this tradition generated a distinctive form of life which enshrined intimacy as a realizable purpose.  Nonetheless, readings generated by his hermeneutical theory expose (1) the violence licensed by appeals to reason and (2) the arrogance of anyone who pretends that a text or language presents the whole of reality transparently.

        (FN:  One might say that Nietzsche used his hermeneutical theory to subvert the authority of any belief-system but his own.  In the Genealogy of Morals, he framed his conviction that the western literary tradition was propelled by an all-pervasive will to power with an evolutionary theory.  In this theory, he simply replaced the god-terms which lent coherence to competing interpretations of the history of the western literary tradition with his own conception of an all-pervasive will to power.)

    Decades later, Heidegger attempted to rescue the western literary tradition from Nietzsche’s worship of naked power by replacing Nietzsche’s god-term with a notion of Being forged by the so-called pre-Socratics.  This substation enabled him to insist that an authentically human stance called for open responsiveness to the workings of a creative and gracious Being.  On one level, his use of the pre-Socratic notion of Being as a god-term implied that truth lies in beginnings.  On another level, however, it replaced the search for definitive readings with an invitation to inhabit texts or textual traditions in ways that allowed their boundaries to function as horizons.

    Structurally, this reformulation encoded the Exodus-theme in a way that would forever subvert any pretense that an objective moral order could generate the creative responses called for by a journey into the unknown.  More importantly, as a response to the rationalist strand in the philosophical tradition he inhabited, Heidegger was the first to realize that Nietzsche’s hermeneutical theory deconstructed the literary foundations of the arena in which rationalists had contended with one another for a prize to be awarded to the theory which triumphed over all contending theories.     

    Once I read a number of Heidegger’s texts as sincere efforts to set forth ways of being human in a culture dominated by das Man (the One), I became less critical of his penchant for amorphous generalizations.  This, I suspect, prepared me to take seriously his use of a notion of Being projected prior to the emergence of significant distinctions among language, experience and reality as the god-term in his hermeneutical theory.  Once I did so, I found that the role he assigned this notion of Being enriched my appreciation of Ong’s work on the irreversible  restructurings of thought that accompanied literacy’s triumph over orality as the foundation of western culture and Wittgenstein’s analysis of the workings of everyday language.

    Regarding WITTGENSTEIN:  In my analyses of the workings of everyday English, I find repeated confirmations of Wittgenstein’s insight that everyday language incorporates myriad forms of life designed to realize distinctive purposes.  As a fruitful point of entry, this focus on human purposes differs radically from Aristotle’s correspondence theory of truth, Nietzsche’s fascination with the impersonal operation of an all-pervasive will to power, and Heidegger’s insistence that an all-encompassing Being is the signified of all signifiers.  Moreover, it provides a literary framework for my suggestion that the dominant forms of life generated by the western literary tradition are grounded in two foundational metaphors, a metaphor of power and judgment and a metaphor of intimacy.

        To supplement Wittgenstein’s analysis, I sometimes invoke Heidegger’s dramatization of the ways that cultures enamored with power and judgment do violence to the longing for a uniquely personal existence.  But Heidegger centered his hermeneutical theory in a distinction between Sein (Being), on one pole, and dasein (a bare “being there”), on the other, and dasein encodes a hollow metaphor of individuality which cannot generate a language capable of transforming the longing for a shared journey to deepening person-to-person involvements into a realizable quest.

       Consequently, as my disagreements with Nietzsche and Heidegger crystalized, I saw more clearly that everyday English can generate linguistic formulations which can be used to process experience in ways which promote that quest and expose the will to power and judgment enshrined in forms of life which abort or distort it.  And since I was searching for a moral discourse without foundations, the realization that everyday analyses of experience revolve around questions concerning realizable purposes accredited my conviction that everyday English transmitted a form of life capable of evoking the elusive longing for intimacy and of transforming that longing into a realizable quest.

    Quite obviously, this focus on realizable purposes differs radically from traditional efforts to ground moral discourse outside of human reality, in a single facet of human reality, or in the idealist and naturalist conventions forged by Plato and Aristotle.  As a matter of fact, forms of life designed to realize distinctive purposes remain alive in everyday language if and only if language-users use the linguistic formulations they generate to process their everyday experiences.  And this is particularly true of the quest for intimacy, since no one can be forced to engage in vulnerable and respectful self-revelations.

    As I probed this insight, I became aware that Wittgensteinean analyses of language and experience show, on the one hand, that the quest for a fully human and uniquely personal existence requires the ability to realize many purposes and, on the other, that judgments and strategies designed to realize purposes derived from the metaphor of power and judgment which serve one well socially do violence to interactions between individuals who have committed themselves to co-author a shared journey into the unknown.

    As a code for reading the Scriptures, therefore, a hermeneutical theory indebted to Wittgenstein’s insights into the workings of everyday languages raises two distinguishable yet inseparable questions.  First and foremost, its focus on purpose evokes the question, “What was God’s purpose in creating the universe?”  Secondly, if the vision of an incomprehensible God who entered human history in and through intensely personal initiatives toward unique individuals frames the Hebrew narrative tradition, the question concerning the response of individuals to God’s activity in their lives can be formulated as follows:  “Is there a distinctive form of life which enables believers to discern God’s initiatives?”

    In my search for answers to those two questions, my early readings of the Jewish Scriptures were dominated by the answers encoded in the metaphors of intimacy projected by Israel’s prophets, not the violent misreading of the story of Adam and Eve inscribed in Augustine’s harsh doctrine of original sin.  Gradually, I became aware that the reformulation of the Second Great Commandment in the High Priestly Prayer in John, “Love one another as I have loved you”, echoed these metaphors of intimacy in ways that enriched the proclamation in the Prologue which attributed creation to an out-pouring of divine love.  Finally, I began to see that clear answers to both questions were inscribed in the meta-narrative which frames the incarnational theology indebted to Scotus.  And working backwards, I formulated the thesis which runs through runs through Christian Ethics:  An Ethics of Intimacy, namely, that an incarnational theology requires an ethics of intimacy, and vice versa.

    Now, in my personal life, I use a language generated by the interplay between an incarnational theology and an ethics of intimacy to discern how the Father’s providential activity is at work in my interactions with those I encounter on my journey into the unknown, how the Spirit moves in my tangled depths, and how both the Father and the Spirit seek to lead me to encounter Jesus as the way, the truth and the life.  But I also confess that I will never understand why the Father, Word incarnate and Holy Spirit long to be intimately involved with me.  I only know that conversing with each of them concerning my joys and sorrows, my moments of near-despair and of ecstatic gratitude evokes transforming moments in my life and in the lives of individuals whom I let into my life.  For I have learned that intimacy with these divine Persons, as with the tangled human beings in my life, can only deepen if I am honest with them and with myself about what I feel and think, real or imagined and that I cannot approach loving others as Jesus loves them if I am not willing to be passionately, vulnerably, respectfully and faithfully involved with them, as Jesus is.

     In sum, an incarnational theology defines God’s creative purpose as a longing to share the intimate life shared by three divine Persons with human beings and defines the Incarnation as the full expression of that purpose.  Consequently, an ethics of intimacy provides a language capable of discerning the activity of each of the three divine Persons in the lives of all human beings and of voicing a call for a response in kind.  Quite obviously, since that activity is often hidden in confusing events, we need a language capable of discerning it.  Equally obviously, the call voiced by that language must speak for itself.  When it does, it can evoke the deepest longings of the human heart and expose the urge to closure inherent in codes derived from metaphors of power and judgment which depict God as a Lord, Lawgiver and Judge.